• Noise can be a real nuisance, especially on busy roads, and electroencephalograms done on people asleep in such situations show that they are registering the noise even though they are asleep. (Some people, used to the noise of a city become insomniacs when they move to the peace of the country-they ‘can’t stand the silence’.) If you are super-sensitive to noise ear plugs are an answer, and if light rooms are a problem you can buy a mask or an eye-shade.
• Depression must first be recognized and then treated to prevent this common cause of sleep loss.
• Watch out for foods and drinks that give you nightmares or simply disturbed sleep.
• Although millions of people sleep perfectly well without ever having sex there is little doubt that intercourse and/or masturbation help the average person to drop off. Unsatisfactory sex on the other hand can prevent sleep. This is especially true in women who are left unsatisfied by their partners. Such a woman can always masturbate if she is left ‘high and dry’. If she can’t masturbate, for whatever reason, she may well be able to sleep better if she doesn’t have sex.
Sex is part of a pre-sleep ritual for many. Most of us use some form of pre-sleep ritual, often without even realizing it. At roughly the same time each night we turn off the TV, put down our book or newspaper, make a hot drink, have a bath or shower, cuddle our partner, perhaps make love, and then go to sleep. Some people listen to music in bed, others pray-it doesn’t matter what it is as long as it’s a relaxing, predictable and unwinding process that prepares us for sleep. The best schedules are regular without being rigid.
• Stop worrying. If we have effective sleep rituals, the worries of the day slip away and we don’t lie there thinking about them. Sex, or indeed any other activity that absorbs our attention, is a good antidote to worry. But often the worry is best confronted and discussed with your partner, if you have one. Try to think around the problem and then go to sleep at least having made some effort to solve it rather than trying to sleep on an unsolved problem. Serious problems can be solved at night when you are alone and peaceful and able to think. Don’t lie there worrying about not sleeping-work through the problem and see what can be done. Some people find deep breathing or forms of meditation help them let go of their insoluble problems.
Don’t worry about insomnia. No one ever died of it and it will probably have very little effect on your performance. Keep a pad of paper and a pen by your bedside and make notes of what you decide to do to sort out the problem that’s worrying you. Next day go through it rationally and implement whatever you can.
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