After a few experiences of this kind, the man usually finds he can ejaculate more quickly, and he is now ready for the next stage of retraining.
In this stage the man is stimulated to a high level of sexual desire, until he reaches the first part of the orgasmic phase when ejaculation is nearly inevitable. At this moment, in the female-superior position, the woman slips his penis into her vagina, continuing to stimulate it manually at the same time. Once his penis is inside her, she thrusts actively against him. Usually this is sufficient to produce his orgasm, but should it fail to occur quickly, she lifts herself off the man and begins to stimulate his penis with her hand once again. As his sexual urge rises to the stage of ejaculatory inevitability, he tells her and she again mounts him. If he ejaculates during the process it does not matter, at least for the first few times, for he is learning that he is able to ejaculate near, if not within, a vagina. His psychological block is beginning to break, and soon he will be able to ejaculate within the woman’s vagina. Once he feels confident, he can adopt the man-on-top position, and his problem has ceased.
It will be obvious that ejaculatory incompetence is the obverse of premature ejaculation. In both instances the man gets an erection. In premature ejaculation he comes too quickly, while if he has ejaculatory incompetence he cannot come at all. But, at least, in both types of sexual disorder an erection can be obtained. The impotent man is not so lucky.
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